Just do it!

Ladies, ladies, ladies!  We must continue to channel our inner Arethas and Annies and do it for ourselves. 

Aretha Franklin and Annie Lennox telling it like it is with their hit Sisters Are Doin' It For Themselves.

According to an article in today's Wall Street Journal, there is still a great deficit of women heading corporations.  While this isn't exactly news, it is newsworthy.  The article cites reasons such as balancing family and work, grueling demanding hours, etc.  Things we mostly already know.  But it is exactly these reasons, and subsequently not getting the C-level gigs, that we must continue to hustle and create something for ourselves, our way.  Our destiny lies in our own hands and we are capable of crashing whatever glass ceiling that might be above us.

In my early days of entrepreneurin' delivering a keynote address at an Emerson College symposium.

In my early days of entrepreneurin' delivering a keynote address at an Emerson College symposium.

We all have different hopes, dreams and aspirations and not everyone is gunning for the top corporate job.  Whatever each of us wants is okay but we have to be prepared to put in the work to achieve it.

Some things, however, stand in our way to being our best that are completely preventable and born out of fear.  One such thing is allowing yourself to become and remain involved in an unhealthy relationship.  We all want to be loved and told we are beautiful and held at night, but at what expense?  When it is revealed to you fairly early on into a relationship (as it usually is if you're paying attention) that your partner is not worthy of you for whatever reason, and the writing is on the wall in a big red marker, it is of the utmost importance that you listen to your gut (because it will be screaming) and extricate yourself from the situation.  Too often, because we seek affirmations from others instead of looking inside for them, we fall into these traps.  It is important to remember that you do not need validation from anyone else to confirm that you are special, beautiful, pretty, smart, whatever.  Let me say that again.  You do not need validation from anyone else to confirm that you are special, beautiful, pretty, smart, whatever.  (Don't make me repeat it again, because I will.)  Okay, one more because it bears repeating: you do not need validation from anyone else to confirm that you are special, beautiful, pretty, smart, whatever.  Got it?  Good.  Accepting and loving who you are for what you are is the first step towards self-love and derails you from operating from a place of fear that tells you you are not these things and need someone else to tell you that you are no matter the price. 

Staying in an unhealthy relationship can have detrimental life-long consequences on your life and can prevent you from realizing your potential and from being fully capable of being both your best personal and professional self. 

There are already too few of us at the top of the professional food chain.  Don't let your personal fears and insecurities contribute to those dismal statistics.

Now get out there and do it for yourself.  NOW!